[Kim Kantrow]

1. List at least 3 things you learned from the course materials (text, articles, group session, etc.) this week as it pertains to being a senior downsizing coach:
*I can say no!
*Learning the different patterns/coping mechanisms is enormously helpful to tell you what is coming next
*Navigating the different family systems and delving into the drama triangle

2. Describe a scenario whereby you were able to implement something you learned:
I’m not sure I’ve been able to implement much this week but I have been able to reflect on a friendship that went sideways. I am a Rescuer and I think that was why she was attracted to me and it ultimately became unsustainable. Now that I know that about myself, I am working on recognizing that pattern and asking more questions, instead of jumping in and fixing things.

3. What challenges did you experience as you considered or attempted approaching conversations from a coaching perspective?
I am still encountering trouble with a client that is part of a succession. The family has a hard time understanding the changing market and are undaunted by 10 months of inventory in their area. They have a number in their head about what they want to accept and are willing to wait, not understanding that time will cost them money…

4. What successes did you experience using your new coaching skills/understanding?
My success is recognizing my Rescuer pattern (in family and work) and working to stop that and recognizing the dynamics in all my relationships.

5. List any topics, concerns, or issues you would like to discuss with your coach either in an upcoming session or in a private conversation/email:

[Kim Kantrow]

1. List at least 3 things you learned from the course materials (text, articles, group session, etc.) this week as it pertains to being a senior downsizing coach:
* Holding back is a real self-management challenge. When you see your clients in distress, your first instinct is to jump and solve their problems but in the end, that does not serve them best.
* Love the idea of making decisions tied to your values. Seems like a no-brainer, but harder to do in practice.
*. The idea that balance can allow for more perspectives that are more resourceful and creative that will provide more action possibilities. Very helpful in assisting an overwhelmed senior.

2. Describe a scenario whereby you were able to implement something you learned:
We were in a multiple offer situation. The owner is not a senior but overwhelmed by the process. I was able to ask questions to get a better understanding of what she was hung up on to help her see the bigger picture and feel relief, instead of more anxiety.

3. What challenges did you experience as you considered or attempted approaching conversations from a coaching perspective?
Translating the Co-Active Coaching principles into real estate. I feel like I’m getting better though just by asking more questions and talking less.

4. What successes did you experience using your new coaching skills/understanding?
I spend a lot of time with my 88yo MIL. She has been my guinea pig for a lot of these skills so I can practice in a safe space.

5. List any topics, concerns, or issues you would like to discuss with your coach either in an upcoming session or in a private conversation/email:
None

[Kim Kantrow]

1. List at least 3 things you learned from the course materials (text, articles, group session, etc.) this week as it pertains to being a senior downsizing coach:
a. I’m intrigued by the thought of curiosity. This is different from what I would typically associatiate curiosity with and I’m exploring how to include that in my practice
b. It feels scary to give homework to people in such a deep context. Makes me feel anxious about crossing the line.
c. I am drawn to the coaching aspect as it gives people confidence in making decisions.

2. Describe a scenario whereby you were able to implement something you learned:
I was able to be curious and ask questions of a client who was having trouble making a decision. We talked about different aspects of a contract and that they are not just about price but other contingencies as well. She is an overwhelmed person in general so she decided that the offer waiving all of the contingencies was the best (even though there was a higher priced offer) because it would make her life easier. I was happy to ease her stress but she ultimately made the decision.

3. What challenges did you experience as you considered or attempted approaching conversations from a coaching perspective?
I feel a little hesitant to know exactly when we have rapport enough to go down the coaching path.

4. What successes did you experience using your new coaching skills/understanding?
See #2

5. List any topics, concerns, or issues you would like to discuss with your coach either in an upcoming session or in a private conversation/email:

[Kim Kantrow]

1. 3 things I learned: Learning about the distinction between coaching and consulting was an eye-opener for me and made me look at my conversations differently. People are not being purposefully reluctant; there’s usually a deeper reason. I love the idea of helping to normalize their feelings.

2. I’m working with a family with a succession property. Asking more coaching questions helped to reframe their issue of moving forward.

3. Different family, I’m helping them navigate their feelings about the changing market. They took too long to get the house on the market and are unhappy with the offers they are getting. Trying to help them understand that they’re not “giving” the house away.

4. We’ll see on Wednesday, if we made headway!

5. It’s so easy to go into “selling” mode, I need to remind myself to slow down and listen.

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