As we mentioned in recent blog post, How We Built Our Seniors Real Estate Niche – Part 1, we are pulling back the curtains of our seniors real estate niche and
sharing with you exactly how we transitioned from a regular ol’ real
estate sales job into a fun and meaningful seniors real estate specialty
business. I am sharing the highs and lows, the lessons and the the
how-to’s and everything in between.
In my previous post, I covered some topics with a broad stroke and promised to go deeper into each area. This second post touches on the first three topics of uncertainty, truth, and clarity – the journey to deciding to specialize.
you glean some strategies, insights, and lessons along the way to help
you get the clarity and/or momentum you’ve been looking for in your own
The early days of unrest, uncertainty, truth and ultimately – decision
As we were in about our 7th year of selling together, Chris and I both
knew that we wanted to grow beyond our current level of sales but were
uncertain as to how we were going to pull it off. We were closing
somewhere around 60 sales annually and were looking for a way to
Side note… since that time, we have done a lot of different timeline
exercises and personal growth and one thing I now know about myself is
that I need something new or different about every 2.5-3 years.
particular time of uncertainty fell perfectly in alignment with that
lifelong trend. Thankfully I am married to an amazing man and business
partner and while he may never fully understand this trait of mine, he
respects and loves me enough to allow me to reinvent, challenge, and
grow at the pace that is natural and right for me.
I had gone back to college uncertain about whether I really wanted to stay in real estate or not
(see, uncertainty – expand or get out altogether).
In about 5 years
time I ended up accomplishing a B.S. in Family Studies and Gerontology
and a M.S. in Counseling Psychology from Southern Nazarene University in
Bethany, OK. This endeavor cost us a small fortune in student loans
(still paying on those BTW), but I would not trade the experiences for
anything. College life was not fun for me as a traditional student in
the early years, but going through two accelerated degree programs as an
adult with small classrooms taught by professors who were actively
working in their fields of expertise was priceless. If you are thinking
about going back to finish a degree, I highly recommend accelerated
The truth – I was searching.
Searching for what? I am not really sure. All
that I know is that I wanted deeply to help people, make a difference,
and find meaning in my life – I questioned that this was possible in
real estate. I mean real estate sales people fell somewhere in the ranks of used car salesman and ambulance chasing attorneys, right?
delivered a gift from this part of our journey that neither Chris nor I
would have anticipated and it certainly wasn’t a part of the plan. As a
counselor in training, it was required to have 3000 hours of supervised
counseling experience. On evenings, weekends and an occasional weekday
while Chris was in charge of running the real estate team, I was meeting
with foster children, drug and alcohol addicted parents, and
“depressed” senior adults. When I wasn’t visiting subsidized housing
complexes, nursing homes, and places that concealed carry should be
required, I contracted as a therapist and case worker at adolescent
mental health facilities, senior diagnostic centers, and for a clinic
who did DUI schools. It was fulfilling for a while – when it was new and
I thought I could make a difference. Then reality set in. I was just
another signature in a thick file wrapped tightly in beaurocratic red
tape reeking from the stinch of greed and mismanagement ran by burnt out
clinicians that likely started out with the same great hope,
inspiration and anticipation of making a difference that I had.
believe that nothing happens by accident and there are absolutely no
coincidences. As it turns out, in the course of a couple of long and
challenging years, one of the 25+ children I had counseled became our
daughter. The path I had followed led us to the most amazing gift ever
and it certainly wasn’t a counseling career. Dakota was 9 when we
adopted her and now she is all grown up and the mother of my precious
grand daughter, Layla.
number two from this particular phase in our journey came from a heart
breaking conversation with an 80+ year old female counseling patient
sitting on a nursing home bed. It was this conversation that in a
split second caused me to realize that I could better serve seniors by
being their real estate agent than I could by being their therapist.
woman, all of about 4’10” tall and beautifully petite at age 82 or 83
sat with tears streaming down her face. It was my job to confirm her
depression diagnosis and write a treatment plan for our work going
forward. As I inquired about the source of her tears, she began to tell
me the story of selling her home and moving to her semi-private room
there in the skilled nursing facility. Knowing that people experience
the phases of grief when they sell a longtime family home just as they
do when they lose a spouse or loved one, I jumped to what seemed like
the obvious source of her grief – selling her home and losing her
I was wrong. She was certainly dealing with the
emotions of selling her beloved home, but not in the way I imagined. As
she continued her story, her emotions became increasingly strong and she
expressed immense anger and frustration saying, “My daughter just let my refrigerator go with the house without even asking me.”
With continued curiosity, I learned that her daughter had negotiated
the refrigerator as a part of the sale and had done so without
consulting her mother – a tragic mistake that I have seen time and time
again in working with older adults.
This refrigerator represented far more to this woman than a storage place for cold foods.
My client was able to recount in intricate detail the purchase of her
beloved appliance complete with dates, locations, prices, and emotions.
She and her late husband had bought the refrigerator new and it was the
only appliance she had ever purchased that wasn’t used – a milestone in
their lives together. My guess – she not only kept milk in that fridge,
but it also held many loving memories of her husband and their lives
together. Now it belonged to someone else.
I made a decision that day – one that would change not only my career but my life.
My role as an agent specializing in seniors real estate would be to
insure that every older adult was empowered throughout their move and
sale process. I made it my personal mission to educate and communicate
with adult children, senior community sales teams, service providers,
real estate agents and my own team the importance of empowerment in this
phase of life. We instituted systems in our sales process that made
this possible and I began teaching and training publicly across the city
on how to effectively navigate the downsizing process.
intentional sales style – grounded in compassion, appreciation, respect,
and empowerment – changed our lives and the lives of those we served.
It is also serves as the basis of our current trainings and educational
programs offered through the Seniors Real Estate Institute.
worked. Through many successes and failures and with the support of our
family, friends, and colleagues, in a relatively short period of time
we became the recognized source of information for all things senior
real estate in our market area. Our sales increased from an average of
about 60 a year to 80 and then eventually over 120. There were two
really exciting things resulting from our increased sales production: 1) We were having FUN, and 2) We weren’t working evenings and weekends.
was the first time in my real estate sales career that I really felt
like I was were I was supposed to be. I was making a difference in the
lives of other people, living in my zone of genius, and running a
profitable business with my best friend and business partner who also
happened to be my husband.
Now that you have a
feel for the path that led us to specialize and the mindset and
philosophy our business was built upon, stay tuned for our next post
that will unveil some of the foundational work that we did to build our
seniors real estate division. I will share the things that worked and
the things that flopped. There were plenty of both!